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This article was co-authored by Cristina Morara. Cristina Morara is a professional matchmaker, dating coach, relationship expert and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a Los Angeles-based luxury matchmaking service serving clients domestically and internationally. A former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect match through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communication and Psychology from the University of Villanova. Stellar Hitch has been featured in The Huffington Post, The Chelsea Handler Netflix documentary, ABC News, The Tonight Show, Voyage LA and Celebrity Perspective. This article has been viewed 245,869 times.

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It’s important to make the right impression on your boyfriend’s friends since they probably make up a big part of his life. When you meet your boyfriend’s friends, try to remember their names and a little bit about each of them. Ask them what they do, if they have hobbies, and how they met your boyfriend. This shows that you want to meet his friends and make a good impression. Remember to be yourself instead of trying too hard to impress your friends. This is how they get to know the real you. Once you’ve met all of your boyfriend’s friends, make an effort to hang out with them regularly to show that you care. You should also encourage your boyfriend to hang out with his friends when you’re not around so they don’t feel like you’re taking their boyfriend away from them. For more tips from our co-author, including how to deal with nervousness when meeting your boyfriend’s friends, read on.

This article was co-authored by Erika Kaplan. Erika Kaplan is a dating coach and matchmaker for Three Day Rule, an exclusive matchmaking company in nine cities across the United States. With over six years of experience, Erika specializes in helping singles find quality matches through date coaching and premium matchmaking services. Erika graduated from Penn State with a bachelor’s degree in public relations. She worked for Rolling Stone, Us Weekly and Men’s Journal before leaving publishing to pursue her passion for connecting people. Erika has been featured on Lifetime, the Philadelphia Inquirer and CBS, as well as Thrillist, Elite Daily, Men’s Health, Fast Company and Refinery29. This article has been viewed 578,381 times.

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To find out if your crush likes someone else, notice if they’re always staring at someone or often sit next to the same person to talk. Also, pay attention to how much time your crush spends on the phone, since people who are distracted by someone may check their phone more often. If your crush likes someone else, they’ll probably just want to hang out with them, so they can act moody when you’re spending time together. However, if you want to be sure that your crush likes someone else, ask them directly. You could say something like, “I’ve noticed that you’re spending a lot of time with Kylie. Do you like them?” When they ask why you want to know, say, “Oh, I was just curious.” For more advice, including how to get rid of your crush who likes someone else, read on.

Sometimes the hardest part is sharing our emotions and feelings with someone. When it comes to relationships and love, people are afraid to take the first step and admit their feelings towards another person. Even if they don’t say it, you can still tell they have a crush on you depending on how they act.

Today we have an article that will help you find out if the boy who has been acting weird lately has feelings for you. There are a number of reasons he might be hiding his feelings. For example, fear that she doesn’t feel the same way, fear of destroying the friendship, not being fully aware of his feelings, etc.

There is a list of 12 signs that he probably likes you but tries his best to hide it from you. Even if everyone knows it, but you…

How to tell if a guy likes you but is hiding it

1. Eye contact

He looks at you when you’re not looking, but if you look and notice him looking at you, he looks away as fast as he can.

He admires you but doesn’t want you to know it’s him. When a boy likes a girl, he can’t take his eyes off of her. Believe it or not, most of the time they don’t even realize it’s that obvious.

2. Never use his phone near you

He doesn’t care about anything else when you guys hang out. He wants to devote 100% of his time to you.

The only time he turns on his phone is when you’re with a group of friends and there’s an awkward silence. He picks up his phone just to open and close random apps and pretends to do something important.

3. He talks to you almost every day

REGULAR FRIENDS DON’T TALK THAT FREQUENTLY. He will always find a new topic for you to talk about. He will ask you many questions and try to get to know you better.

Next: How to tell if a guy likes you

4. He never talks about other girls

If he never mentions other girls, just know there’s a reason. He’s afraid you’ll think he has a crush on someone else. He doesn’t want you to think he’s interested in anyone else.

Even if he meets another girl somewhere, he won’t tell you. He might also mention that he’s single during your conversation, just in case you didn’t know.

5. Treats your friends well

He likes you, so he wants your friends to like him. He will act nice in front of your friends and try to get close to them.

6. He tries to be around you

He wants to be physically close to you all the time. He won’t leave until you do. Or if you’re with a group of friends, he’ll try to slow his pace to walk with you.

Whether he goes or stays, he will find ways to be present where you are. You can tell that a man is attracted to you when you see him everywhere you go: your favorite places, cafes you frequent… He will always be there.

Next: How to tell if a guy likes you via text message

7. Jealousy

If a guy likes you, he’ll be jealous over little things. When you’re talking about another guy or how other guys flirt with you, you’ll notice obvious jealousy on his face and in his actions, even if he’s trying too hard not to express it.

8. He is supportive

He may not show you that he has feelings for you, but he will show you how much he cares about you and that he will be by your side no matter what. For example, during the discussion, he will try to prove YOUR point of view, even if he doesn’t agree with you.

Also, he will try to encourage you to achieve your goals and show interest. The reason is that he wants to give you confidence.

9. He knows everything about you.

You may not have been paying attention, but during casual conversations you accidentally noticed some facts about yourself. He pays a LOT of attention to each of them. He doesn’t want to seem rude.

Even if you don’t talk much about yourself, he will ask you many questions. He wants to know even the smallest details. The most important question to ask about his feelings towards you concerns your relationship status: do you have a crush on someone? Are you in a relationship? Etc?

Next: 55 things to talk about with your crush

10. Quick answers

Of course he wants to talk to you, but he doesn’t take an immediate answer, he doesn’t want you to think he’s a crackpot who answers straight away. He will do his best to wait a few minutes but he won’t keep you waiting too long, he doesn’t want you to lose interest or make you feel less important.

11. Sorry

He will apologize for the smallest things just so you know it was a coincidence and he didn’t mean it. He will apologize for not replying in time, for not being able to spend time at that exact moment, etc. But he will be excited next time you meet or text and tell you everything he didn’t tell you before could say .

12. He looks out for you in a crowd

If he tells a joke and everyone laughs, he’ll start looking for you in people just to see if you’re laughing too. He tries to impress you with his jokes and doesn’t really care if anyone laughs. He just wants to see your reaction.

During parties or gatherings, he will be constantly checking on you, seeing what you are doing and making sure you are comfortable.

The Spice Girls knew what they were talking about. We expect our lover to be cool with the people closest to us, and when they can’t meet that basic requirement, we seriously consider moving on. But let’s not forget the other side of the coin – how we get along with our partner’s friends. After all, it’s only fair that we make the same effort that we expect of them.

But just hanging out with the friends of the SO can be a stressful endeavor, often because all you’re worried about is getting the seal of approval. I know this fear all too well. The first few times I hung out with my boyfriend’s friends, I was dangerously close to having a panic attack. I’d just moved to Australia and was having enough trouble understanding the weird accent and even weirder slang that it was scary meeting everyone.

After a few weeks of agony, I pulled myself together. I realized that there’s no chance of getting along well with your SO’s buddies unless you make an effort yourself. Today, some of my favorite people in the world are my boyfriend’s oldest friends. I’m here to tell you that if I can do it, you certainly can too. Here are nine tips to help you get along better with your partner’s friends. (By the way, a few beers never hurts.)

1. Show yourself

Do your best not to be that girlfriend who says no to all the parties and weekend trips. You can’t expect your boo’s friends to like you unless you make the bare minimum of effort to show your face. It may be uncomfortable the first few times you join the group outings, but the discomfort will go away over time.

If you’re nervous about being all your partner’s friends at once, plan the meeting yourself. Invite her over to your house or pick a bar you’re familiar with. Feeling like you’re on your home lawn will put you at ease and make socializing a little easier.

2. Accept them as they are (within reason)

Sure, they might do bizarre things and have a dark sense of humor that you just don’t get, but instead of putting labels on all of this, take it as it comes. Social gatherings suddenly become much more tolerable, and you may be surprised to find some qualities in them that you enjoy.

Of course, this all goes out the window, if they’re rude to you or act like racist or sexist assholes – then the problem is why your partner is friends with them in the first place.

3. Don’t be afraid to take control of the conversation

My boyfriend and his buddies love to talk about surfing; they can go on for hours in a language I’ll never fully understand. I used to feel super lame because I couldn’t contribute anything to the conversation—until I finally realized I didn’t have to be a mute.

If you feel my pain and your SO’s friends keep chatting about old memories you weren’t there for, accept responsibility. Change the subject and steer the conversation so that everyone, including you, can participate.

4. Don’t worry too much about making a good impression

It might be your first instinct to look your best when you’re with them. You want to make a good impression, right? You may think that censoring yourself is enough, but it won’t get you anywhere. If you think you come off as polite, most of the time you come across as inauthentic to those who don’t know you well. Joke around with them just like you would with your own crew. If they don’t get your sense of humor right away, they will gradually adapt to it.

5. Stop telling yourself they don’t like you

Have they ever said that to your face? Or to your SO? OK, then don’t make up these stories in your head. You will only drive yourself crazy and eventually convince yourself that everyone hates you. (They don’t.) If you let that insecurity fester, you’ll have that mental block that makes it impossible to have a good time together.

Be confident in your personality. Remember that there are many things your partner likes about you, so it won’t be long before their friends discover the good stuff too.

6. Bring your friends to hang out (sometimes).

I think this is the best strategy for feeling comfortable in your partner’s gang. Your friends will end up being the best buffers, and they’ll make sure you’re comfortable in any situation. When you have your group around you, you can also bring out the real you. So the next time you fly solo, you’ll feel more comfortable around your partner’s buddies.

Of course, don’t do this every time unless they suggest it. (Hey, your friends are cute.)

7. If your partner upsets you, wait until you get home to argue about it

Fighting in front of your friends will not improve your relationship with them. It makes them uncomfortable and it’s a bit of a buzzkill. If you and your partner get into a little scuffle, try to keep the drama to a minimum while everyone is still out together. When you get home, settle the bill and talk about it in a quiet environment.

8. Don’t run up to them when you’re having an argument with your SO

Save the tears and trash talk for your own friends. If you involve your partner’s friends, things could get messy. If you’re in the middle of a fight, you’re bound to say some things that you might later regret – and that’s okay. You just don’t want them to fall on the wrong ears. Because their loyalty isn’t to you, you could get into a disagreement about whose fault it really is, and suddenly your SO won’t be the only one you’re arguing with.

9. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be best friends with them

Think of it as Ben & Jerry’s: Just because your SO loves Cherry Garcia doesn’t mean you have to too. It’s the same with her friends. Becoming best friends with the people in your partner’s life is not a deal breaker for your relationship. Sure, it would be nice if you texted each other and had inside jokes all the time, but it’s not necessary. The second you let go of that image in your head, you create space for a genuine friendship to grow between you.

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15 signs he’s into you a lot more than he’s letting on!!

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#1 They always talk over text. The only time you don’t talk to each other is when you’re sleeping. Otherwise you text each other all the time. He always has a funny meme to show you or a link to a YouTube clip he wants to show you. If he makes an effort to send you these things, it shows that he is thinking of you.

#2 He likes all of your social media posts. Whatever you post, whether it’s funny or not, he’s one of the first people to like your posts. He can even comment on your photos and make sure everyone knows there’s something going on between you. He thinks it’s subtle, but it’s not, and it’s definitely one of the clearest signs he thinks about you a lot.

#3 He follows you on social media. He not only has you on Facebook but also on Snapchat, Instagram and Pinterest. He wants to make sure he stays in the loop and sees what you’re up to and how he can make himself a part of your day-to-day plans. No guy would do that if he wasn’t interested in you. If he follows you on social media, it’s because he wants to.

#4 Whenever he sees you, he always hugs you. When some male friends see you, they will hug you with one arm. That’s lame. When he hugs you, he gives you a real hug. You feel warm, safe and loved when he puts his arms around you. If you feel that, he probably feels it too and is happy to see you.

#5 He is always happy when he is around you. When you see it, it lights up. He just can’t help but smile when he’s around you. What does that mean? You know exactly what it means. He’s not a robot, he can’t hide his feelings forever. Eventually, over time, they will slip through the cracks.

#6 He asks you lots of questions. you know why right? It’s because he really wants to get to know you. He wants to know what’s going on in your brain, what you’re thinking about, and if you’re thinking about him. So he will poke around and get as much information about you as he can.

#7 He doesn’t check his phone around you. I’ve met guys where all they do is text when they’re with someone. It’s annoying. It feels like you’re not good enough for her to give you some of her time. However, when your guy is around you, he’s not looking at his phone, he’s busy spending time with you and giving you his full attention.

#8 He remembers the little things. You may have told him things months and months ago, but he still remembers the small details. This really shows you when he thinks about you a lot. If he remembers these things, he’s paying attention because he cares about you.

#9 He doesn’t make a decision without you. If it’s a big, life-changing decision, he’ll make sure you have your say on it. Your thoughts are important to him and he doesn’t want to make big decisions without talking to you. Are you meeting or something? It certainly sounds like it!

#10 He laughs at your jokes. Well, of course you’re funny. But not all men will relax enough to just laugh next to you. But he is different. He laughs freely at your jokes and has no problem playing along. If he finds you funny, you are already special to him.

#11 He tries to squeeze extra time with you out. If you’re hanging out even though he knows you have to go to work or be home for dinner, he’ll try to squeeze out an extra five minutes with you. He just loves spending time with you, can you blame him?

#12 You feel like you are the only one around. When you’re around him, he makes you feel like you’re the only one around. He invests all his time and attention in you. He’s not interested in looking at his phone, he doesn’t want to talk to his friends. The time together is only for you.

#13 He maintains eye contact. When he looks at you, it’s not like every other guy. he looks at you No, he’s not staring at your boobs or eyeing you like a piece of meat. He really looks you in the eye. And when he thinks about you, he’ll just stare at you a little longer than normal.

#14 He is curious about you. Not only does he ask you questions, but he has this sense of curiosity about you. It’s like you’re that rare creature he’s trying to understand. That is why he is constantly watching you, watching you closely.

#15 He tells you. If he tells you he’s been thinking about you a lot, it’s because he’s been thinking about you a lot. It’s not easy for men to express their feelings and he takes a big step forward by telling you how he feels. When he’s not into games, he’s telling the truth.

Link: https://www.lovepanky.com/women/dating-men-tips-for-women

Only friends are possible, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a sexual interest in his girlfriend.

Can men and women be “just friends”? A new study suggests the answer is yes — but men may be more attracted to their girlfriends than the other way around.

Men report more sexual interest in their friends than their friends do in them, and men are also more likely than women to overestimate how romantically interested their friends are in them. In most cases, sexual attraction within a friendship is seen as a liability rather than a benefit, the study found.

“I think men and women want to be friends, they want to be platonic,” said study researcher April Bleske-Rechek, a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, Eau Claire. “But the data I’ve collected suggests that attractions can get in the way.”

friends without benefits

Friendship is an interesting area of ​​study because it has no obvious reproductive benefits, Bleske-Rechek told LiveScience. Evolutionary psychologists often focus on sexual relationships and familial relationships, assuming that humans evolved to pass their own genes on to the next generation. But friends don’t share genetic ties or offspring, and yet they help each other. [6 Scientific Tips for a Successful Relationship]

Bleske-Rechek and her colleagues were interested in how heterosexual, opposite-sex friends deal with issues of sexual attraction that might arise in their friendships. First, they recruited 88 college-age friend pairs of opposite sexes to fill out questionnaires about their friendship. The researchers had pairs of friends come over so they could be sure each member of the pair agreed they were in a friendship to prevent one-sided relationships from muddling the waters.

Participants separately answered questions about their friendship, including their mutual attraction. To avoid pressure to share the answers later, the researchers instructed the friends to keep their answers confidential even after the study.

The results showed that men are more attracted to their girlfriends than their girlfriends are to them. Such an overestimation of women’s interest is not unusual for men, said Bleske-Rechek.

“Men overestimate women’s sexual interest in a variety of contexts, and I definitely see this extending to the realm of cross-gender friendships,” Bleske-Rechek said.

attraction to friends

Men who were romantically involved were no less likely than single men to say they found their girlfriend attractive or that they would like to date her. Women who were romantically involved were just as likely as single girls to be attracted to their male friends, but they drew the line when dating as fewer women in relationships said they would date their male friend.

Next, the researchers wanted to extend their findings beyond the college student realm, so they sent questionnaires to 107 young adults, ages 18 to 23, and 322 adults, ages 27 to 55. In these questionnaires, participants were asked about their cross-gender friendships and given the opportunity to list their own reasons why those friendships were both beneficial and distressing.

Although older adults reported fewer friends of the opposite sex than the younger group, they all viewed these friendships very positively and rated them as overwhelmingly beneficial. But when people included an attraction on the “costs and benefits” list, it almost always fell under “cost.” Almost half of the young adults in the study spontaneously mentioned attraction as a problem in their friendships, the researchers reported April 25 in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.

There was a slight gender difference on this finding, so men were less likely than women to describe sexual attraction to a boyfriend as a cost, although they were still unlikely to see it as a positive. [5 Reasons Why Relationships Are Good For You]

“If it comes up as an advantage, a guy is more likely to say it,” Bleske-Rechek said.

The finding shouldn’t be interpreted to mean that men and women can’t be friends, Bleske-Rechek said, only that we might have to transcend our evolutionary history to do so.

“It’s very likely that the modern environment has changed so rapidly that we have these novel opportunities to engage in a variety of types of relationships with the opposite sex that historically we probably didn’t have,” she said. “It will take a while for us to get used to it.”

You can follow LiveScience senior writer Stephanie Pappas on Twitter at @sipappas. Follow LiveScience for the latest scientific news and discoveries on Twitter @livescience and on Facebook.

Both experts agree that if you feel your relationship with your crush is crossing certain boundaries, it might be time to talk to your partner. “It’s important to know the difference between a crush and an emotional affair,” explains Della Casa. She says it can be easy to cross the line when you find yourself hiding the exchanges between you and your crush or doing things with them that you wouldn’t do in front of your partner.

“How you deal with the crowd is the key component to whether or not you need to include your partner,” Della Casa says. “If you think the guy or girl in the office is good looking and just as funny as Jimmy Fallon or Jennifer Lawrence, there’s no need to tell your partner. But if you go for it (give [him] your number or email, make the effort to meet the person, dream about them, go for a coffee or lunch one on one or compare them to your partner and wishing you were single), it’s time to step back and address the issues you’re having in your relationship.”

As these feelings of attraction grow stronger, Chong advises taking a closer look at your current relationship. These feelings could be warning signs that there are issues that you and your partner need to address. “There’s a good chance there’s an emotional need that’s not being met in the relationship, and it’s being met so much — by your crush — that you get very confused,” she says. “The line between fantasy and reality is suddenly blurred. Once you realize this is happening, it’s best to just bite the bullet and get straight to your partner before it gets too overwhelming and you do something you’ll regret.

Share on Pinterest Having a new crush can feel amazing. You look forward to seeing them and feel energized, even euphoric, when you spend time together. Depending on the situation, there is even a possibility that the feelings are mutual. When your relationship with your crush is going nowhere, you may be feeling, well, down. And that feeling is anything but fantastic. Maybe your crush is on someone off-limits, like a married friend or professor. These crushes are pretty normal, but they’re still hard to get over, even if you know from the start that you can’t commit to them. You may still feel devastated if your crush is available but doesn’t return your feelings. In the end, it might not matter why your crush is unfulfilled: the heartbreak still feels the same. If you’re struggling to keep going, these 14 tips can help.

Accept Your Feelings Before you can begin to get over a crush, you have to admit it. It’s common to initially deny romantic feelings, especially when you have a crush on a good friend, your boss, or someone you find unattainable. Acknowledgment and acceptance are important first steps in the healing process. Crushes are normal, even in people you know you would never pursue. Holding down your feelings can prevent you from processing them in a productive way. Instead, they might linger and cause more grief. “Accepting how you’re feeling and giving yourself space to emotionally process and let go of those feelings can help you develop different feelings about a person and eventually move on,” explains Kim Egel, a therapist from San Diego .

Give It Time The agony a crush can cause is pretty universal. If you never tell your crush how you feel, you might not actually get rejected. But it still hurts when your hopes are dashed. Luckily, crushes don’t usually last long, although you may feel like you’ll be miserable forever. It’s fairly common for the strength of your feelings to diminish within a few weeks or months. However, the time it takes to get over a crush can vary. In the meantime, you can take care of yourself by: getting enough sleep and exercising

Support yourself with positive self-talk

Try the healing effects of massage or yoga

spend time in nature

Look at your crush from a realistic perspective. Crushes often involve idealization, especially if you don’t know the person well. They could focus on their positive qualities and pay less attention to the things that aren’t great. Even if you and your crush get along fabulously in some ways, time often reveals sharp contrasts in key values. Maybe you’re vegan and they eat meat, or they’re very spiritual and you’re not. “Being transparent about yourself will do you good here,” says Egel. “A truthful look at the reality of the situation is essential to moving forward.” Put aside the things you like about them for a moment and ask yourself about their other qualities. Do they align with what you want in a long-term relationship?

Mourn the loss of what you hoped for. A crush that goes nowhere has similarities to rejection and unrequited love. As temporary as a crush may be, it involves real feelings and real pain. Take the time to sit with these feelings. You may need more time to come to terms with deeper emotions from longer-lasting or more serious crushes. Allow yourself to look back at moments when you were sure they returned your affection, sparks you felt, or the hookups and intimacy you were hoping for. This is a grieving process, so it’s okay to be sad, frustrated, or wondering why things couldn’t work out.

Avoid Letting Your Emotions Consume You It’s important to express your feelings so that you can process them. But dwelling on them may discourage you from taking steps to develop a relationship with someone who is available and romantically interested. Constantly talking about your crush or spending a lot of time contemplating the pain of rejection makes it difficult to move on. If you find yourself caught in a negative thought cycle, try: Mindfully accept the feelings that arise, and then let them go

“Put aside” mentally distressing feelings until you can productively explore them

distract yourself with your favorite activity

Talk About It If you’re having trouble processing your emotions, it can be helpful to share them with someone you trust. They can help give you more perspective, especially when you’re trying to honestly figure out how strong they are or are trying to figure out reasons why your crush isn’t an ideal match. Try: to talk to your loved ones

talk to someone you trust and who also knows your crush

Write your feelings in a journal or in a letter that you don’t have to send. If you are already in a relationship. People in committed relationships can still have crushes. This can be a confusing and distressing experience, but it’s not uncommon and doesn’t mean you need to break up. Talking to your partner about the crush can help. Explain that you are working on it and don’t want to react to it. Honesty can increase trust and lead to a deeper bond. Additionally, if the crush is a mutual friend, you can choose to see them a little less. Your partner may not understand why if they don’t know what’s going on.

Stay away from social media. It’s okay to admit it: It’s tempting to look at a crush’s latest photos or see if they’re dating someone. But once they reject you or you decide not to track them, it’s best to limit your digital engagement. FOMO — that unique fear of missing out that social media causes — also occurs with crushes. Using social media to peek into their lives makes it easy to fantasize about sharing that life. Accordingly, staying digitally connected to a crush via Facebook or Instagram can add to the sadness of missing out on life with them. You don’t need to take any permanent action, such as For example, unfriend them or block them, but unfollowing them and avoiding things like: checking for new posts or comments can help

sniffing for relationship status updates

Posting Things to Get Their Attention While you’re at it, remember that social media posts are often edited, idealized snapshots — not accurate representations of everyday life.

Reframe Your Feelings When you’re spending time with someone and sharing vulnerabilities, it’s easy to develop feelings of closeness and attraction. These positive feelings can develop into a crush even when the other person is romantically unavailable. Traits like friendliness, intelligence, and a great sense of humor can fuel a crush. But you don’t have to date someone to continue enjoying these aspects of their personality. Don’t deny the positive feelings they evoke. Instead, if it feels like something you can realistically do, consider it a benefit of your existing bond. Many people believe that romantic love is the culmination of a relationship, but it’s possible to have strong, close relationships without romance.

Don’t Treat Friendship Like a Consolation Prize Making friends when romance isn’t an option can be a great way to stay close to someone you care about—if you approach it with the right mindset. A friendship built on the mindset, “Well, if we can’t date, friendship is probably the next best thing,” may not work. If you secretly go into friendship with the hope that they will like you again someday, you might both end up getting hurt. Instead, value friendship for its own merits and not as a less appealing alternative to a relationship. All relationships can have significant benefits, and friendship is just as important to life as romance. Some consider it even more important.

Talk to your crush Telling your crush how you’re feeling is generally a choice on your part. If you are close friends, you may worry about losing their friendship and decide to wait until the crush is over. However, if the crush is mutual, telling them how you feel could spark a relationship. While not mutual, most adults can handle the disclosure of romantic feelings with grace and compassion. After all, you’ve probably experienced something similar yourself. If they reject you, it’s best to just treat them like you normally would. Avoiding them could indicate that something is wrong between you, which could lead to difficulties at work or questions from friends. Giving yourself some space can help ease the sting of rejection. If you tend to spend a lot of time together, explain that you want to remain friends but need some space for now. This is a healthy reaction that you will probably understand. You may feel frustrated, upset, and confused as to why they can’t try you, especially if you’re close friends. Remember, you can’t force attraction or love, and they can’t help their feelings any more than you can.

Distract Yourself When you’re trying to process relationship heartaches, from a failed crush to a nasty breakup, distraction is key. It can seem like everything reminds you of your crush, especially if you’re friends or have a lot of common interests. This often hurts even more because you can’t focus on your favorite music or activity together. If that’s the case for you, now is the time to try something new. Take up a new hobby you’ve always wanted to try. Start a new show instead of feeling nostalgic (or miserable) about a show you enjoyed with your crush. Friends and family who know what you’re going through can also help you take your mind off your crush by offering emotional support and suggesting new distractions.

Try dating again. Developing feelings for someone new can serve as a kind of distraction. While there’s nothing wrong with throwing yourself back into the dating pool, try with intention and clarity. For example, identify beforehand what you expect from a partner. Asking yourself what you found attractive about your crush can provide insight here. If you have a pattern of moving from swarm to swarm, try to look at what’s behind it. Immediately redirecting unrequited feelings to someone else who is unlikely to reciprocate them isn’t the most helpful way to move forward. If you keep developing crushes that don’t work, it can help to explore possible causes, alone or with a therapist.

Do things you enjoy Spending time in activities you enjoy won’t eliminate your romantic feelings, but it usually helps increase self-love and confidence. It can also help improve your mood and overall well-being. It’s easy to fall into thought patterns that suggest you’re incomplete without love or a relationship. But it is possible to be content, even happy, without a partner. You absolutely don’t have to give up on finding love. Working to be your best self and doing things you enjoy regularly can help you live a rewarding life until you find someone who is right for you.

Get professional support Therapy can help if your normal functioning is compromised, Egel suggests. She explains that if you’re having trouble doing things you would normally do or if you’re having trouble finding joy in your daily life, therapy is often a good option. Talking to a therapist can also help if you: Feel trapped in negative thoughts

struggling to meet the needs of self-sufficiency

persistently feeling sad, lonely, or hopeless

feel overly anxious when you don’t see or hear from your crush

You’re here to learn how to break up with a friend nicely — or as nicely as possible, given how he’s been treating you lately.

It’s not easy to “fall” a friend, even if they never really earned that title.

Still…how can you be sure it’s for the best?

Deep down you know it’s right, but you want to understand why.

And you want help working through the process.

where do you start

Is it okay to distance yourself from friends?

It should come as no surprise to anyone that many friendships end with little less than warmth and more than a few well-chosen words.

Knowing this doesn’t make it any easier to cut someone out of your life. But if you can say any of the following things about your relationship, it’s time to say goodbye:

You feel invisible, manipulated and burned out;

It keeps you from the life you desire;

It makes it harder to make the changes you need to make;

It isolates you from those who truly love and support you;

It constantly gets you into trouble or dark places.

Friendship is about so much more than having similar backgrounds or liking the same things.

You want a relationship that will help you become the person you want to be. You want to brighten up someone’s world and have them do the same for you.

Sometimes you don’t find that until you step out of someone else’s shadow.

7 reasons why you should distance yourself from friends

Knowing your reasons for breaking up with that friend can make the process easier, if not necessarily easier. Which of the seven reasons below best fits your situation?

1. They have grown apart.

They have nothing (or enough substance) in common anymore. You may even disagree on important issues – so important that you cannot imagine being more than a civil acquaintance with them.

For you, friends are soul mates. This person may share many outward traits, habits, and preferences, but their spirit is completely alien to you.

There is no common ground solid enough to stand on.

2. Your behavior has damaged more important relationships.

This person has a way of making you uncomfortable with everyone. They need to apologize and find excuses for them – putting out fires wherever they go.

They have apologized to you for their behavior in the past, but they have done absolutely nothing to correct it because your friendship is not worth any real effort to them.

You’ve affirmed them too many times when in doubt, only to regret your stubborn optimism. Being her friend is not worth ruining relationships that are more important to you.

You don’t give them up; They let go of what you thought you had with them.

3. You are overly critical and dismissive.

This friend was always quick to criticize you for one thing or another, passing it off as a “joke,” or making a particularly harsh comment like “Joke! wow you are sensitive Calm down, okay?”

If you’re feeling good, you can count on them to sabotage it with a thoughtless, but probably calculated, insult. Then they set you on fire because you feel offended.

You can never just be yourself with them. When they see a glimmer of light, they pounce on it.

4. Their behavior towards you and others is toxic.

Look up the word “narcissist” and you’ll see that your friend is aptly described by a list of well-known traits. And their behavior is impossible to ignore or write off as “You really mean well, but…”.

The last time you remember anything was easy between you was when they first got you into hanging out with them. They did or said something unexpected – something that made you feel alive and special – and you were glad to know them.

Cut to the present, and they still act like they saved you from your boring, desperate self. It’s time to find friends who see you differently.

5. They weren’t there when you needed them.

The same person who expected you to drop everything to be there for them is not responding to your calls and texts at all when you need them most.

It’s not like you expect them to be there all the time, but if they can’t be there for you when you really need them… why are you friends at all?

They could understand if they were sick or needed to be there for someone in their family or if something happened that prevented them from receiving or replying to your messages.

This person just didn’t care. And you’re done gaslighting when you call her.

6. Their influence has had a negative impact on your life.

What about this “friend” makes it so much easier to do things that you always regret afterwards? It sounds like fun when they first suggest it – risky and a bit scary, but ultimately harmless.

They don’t see the episodes until they knock. And they always do. However, call your “friend” and he somehow managed to escape the worst of the consequences. They leave that to you.

And that probably won’t change.

7. The relationship is one-sided.

You invest more in this relationship than you gain from it. And you do all (or most) of the work to keep the friendship going. You are always the contact person. Otherwise, they could go months with no attempts from them to check on you.

You’ve never missed a birthday – you’ve always found something you knew would absolutely love it. They gushed and thanked you for it, but never returned it on your birthday or any other time.

As far as you can tell, you’re little more to them than a handy source of free content.

How to distance yourself from a friend: 7 subtle ways to withdraw

Now that you know legitimate reasons to distance yourself from friends (who aren’t real friends), let’s look at how you can distance yourself from someone who isn’t good for you.

1. Give yourself the time and space you need to prepare.

You need time to think about why you are doing this. Getting clear about your reasons will help when it comes time to articulate them for the breakup.

Jot down some ideas for a script to use as you speak. Or compose a written message for them.

Give yourself the time to process what you need to say to this person. Try to anticipate what they are likely to say when arguing for your relationship to continue. If they’re losing more than you, they’re good at fighting back.

The time you invest in this process now will save you years of back and forth.

2. Decide on your shipping method.

Will you break up with your boyfriend in person or via a handwritten letter, phone call, or email? If you’re not sure, make a list of the pros and cons of each approach. Because you know that person better than we do, you have a clearer idea of ​​how they are likely to react to that person.

If possible, tell them personally if this is safe for you. Otherwise, choose the method that allows you to get your points across while limiting their ability to talk you out of it.

If you can’t get them to meet up and they’re not responding to your calls, there’s nothing wrong with breaking up with an email or even a well-considered text.

3. Be honest and choose the direct route.

Don’t lie to yourself with a “It’s not you; it’s me” business. It’s up to you two. They are not doing this “for their own good” or because “they can do better”.

You do this because you recognize the limitations of your relationship with them. You see that friends haven’t done either of you any real favors.

You want a relationship that is mutually supportive and comfortable for both of you; You just know that you don’t have that with this person. And it’s unlikely you ever will.

So tell that person the truth. And get your point across as soon as possible.

4. Honor friendship for all the good it has brought to your life.

While the relationship had its flaws, you want to acknowledge all the good that came from knowing that person and being their friend for so long.

Even if you can think of a little thing, honor it if it means something to you. Thank them for all the good they have brought into your life. Let them know that you are not doing this to punish them or get back at them for hurtful things they have said or done in the past.

This isn’t about the past. It’s about the present and being honest about where you are.

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5. Give the other person a chance to reply.

It will no doubt be tempting to just say your input and walk away before the other person has a chance to respond. As far as you know, they tend to agree with your assessment of your relationship.

But even if they’re not, take this opportunity to stiffen your spine and let them say what’s on their mind, even if it’s more of the same stuff you’ve heard. Resist the urge to cut them off.

When they’re done—or when you get a decent job (because sometimes you just have to)—let them know you have plans and need to get started. If they have more to say and have already talked more than you, invite them to write it down.

Don’t offer to continue the conversation another day. Quietly end it and say goodbye.

6. Make it stick.

And by “it” we mean separation. Once you’ve said your bit and it’s settled, don’t confuse your ex-boyfriend by inviting them to a party or asking about their plans for the weekend.

Be polite and friendly, but not welcoming. And once you’ve decided you’re not friends anymore, don’t be surprised if they don’t want anything to do with you at all.

They can even drag your name through the mud to punish you for ending the relationship (on your terms, rather than waiting to be dumped or ghosted by them).

Leave them to their process. And take care of your own.

7. Go forward.

Think about what will help you move forward without this person in your life. For example, what would you like to do that you never wanted to do? Who would you like to spend more time with from now on?

And what can you do to get to know yourself better? Because it’s worth getting to know you.

Spend more time with what you love – with people who love you for who you are. And don’t let that stop you from making new friends.

Your new bestie might just be on the other side of it all.

When friends distance themselves from you

You won’t always be the one to initiate a breakup. Sooner or later, someone you identify as a friend will decide to end things and put some distance between you.

So how do you deal with the pain of being “ditched” as a friend?

Give yourself time and space to mourn the loss of a friendship;

Be honest about what that friendship brought into your life and what it cost.

Spend time with other friends and supportive family members;

Make time for some extra self-care;

Make plans for something to look forward to.

Also, keep in mind that if that friend is willing to sever that connection and move on without you, they may do exactly what is best for both of you.

It may not feel like it at first. But you decide what you do with it.

Now that you see this relationship for what it is and now how to end it, what are your biggest takeaways from this post?

We hope it brings you closer to becoming the person you want to be surrounded by people who love you unconditionally for who you are. We all need at least one person who will see the good in us, even when we are having a hard time.

What will you do differently today?

Have you ever fallen in love with your best friend’s girlfriend? If not, let me play the scenario. Your best friend of 10 years has been dating his girlfriend for a few years now. You go out with them from time to time and lately you have romantic feelings for his girlfriend. You can’t stop thinking about her, you’re confident that you and her would be a perfect match, and you’ve been thinking what if, what if they split up and you could be the love of their life? You thought about telling her how you feel about her. It’s intense and it gets to the point where you can’t hold back your feelings one day longer. So what are you doing?

It is important to handle this situation as gracefully as possible. Some feelings could get hurt, friendships could fall apart, and relationships on multiple levels could be at stake. There is a lot to lose – the friendship between you and your best friend, the relationship between your best friend and your girlfriend and the great possibility that trust will be broken.

Trust is hard to rebuild once it’s broken. It takes a lot of effort and time to restore it, and it’s not just one side, because when we break that trust it’s not just with the other person, it’s often with ourselves. The person being betrayed doesn’t just ask why the other person did what they did, but also why they allowed the betrayal and why they didn’t see it coming. Trust is the glue that holds relationships together. It allows you to feel safe, vulnerable enough to connect emotionally with another person. So when that trust is broken, the glue begins to peel from the foundation, and the trust that was once ingrained and solid becomes brittle.

So it goes without saying that once you realize you have these feelings for your best friend’s girlfriend, the main focus is to prevent her from moving any further. Here are some steps to do just that.

Help! I’m in love with my best friend’s girlfriend – what should I do?

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First, consider the consequences of cheating

Imagine the scenario if you made strides towards your best friend’s girlfriend. If she reciprocates your move, then you are cheating on your best friend and not only will your friends take a drastic blow, but their relationship could also be destroyed – two relationships and three people are affected due to an emotional and romantic decision. On the other hand, if she doesn’t retaliate, it’s just as devastating; because if she confides in your best friend, then again many relationships will be negatively affected; and even if she doesn’t tell him, you will feel uncomfortable around her, she will feel like she has secrets from her boyfriend, and your best friend will be more likely to sense that something is wrong. It’s a lose/lose situation. Also, consider how you would feel if you had to ask yourself, “Am I in love with my best friend?”

That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the types of conversations you have and the information you share with your best friend’s girlfriend. In fact, it’s better to be careful and always have your best friend with you when you’re having deep conversations with his girlfriend. There is too much temptation and too much to lose to risk.

Stay quiet

If you feel like you can’t follow your impulses, hopefully time will eliminate and lessen your desire for your girlfriend, especially when you shift your focus to someone else (this will be discussed later in this article). However, it’s important to note that even if you don’t act out your feelings physically, you could still have emotional, romantic feelings for them and essentially be having an emotional affair, which could subsequently lead to a physical act.

Keep your distance from the girlfriend

If you’re really honest with yourself and find you can’t resist the temptation to try your hand at his girlfriend, then distance is the cure. It is better to withdraw from meetings than risk losing so much and hurting close friends. Whether or not you decide to tell your friend why you don’t go with them on their outings is an individual decision. If you’re not already hanging out with them too much then it makes it easier, but if you are and they’ve suddenly been ghosting them, then a one-on-one meeting with your best friend might be in order.

Find your very special someone

One way to keep your distance from your girlfriend is to hang out with someone else. Someone you enjoy being with, someone you think is special, even someone you’re attracted to. It doesn’t have to be a love interest or romantic relationship; it can be a good friend that you have fun with and enjoy being with. This will direct your focus and emotions towards someone new and away from your best friend’s girlfriend.

However, be careful not to replace the emptiness of not being with your best friend’s girlfriend with a rebound relationship. Not only is this unhealthy, but it’s also not fair to the new person you’re hanging out with now. Be honest with yourself about whether you’re really building a healthy friendship or relationship with the new person, or whether it’s an impulsive move.

Tell your best friend how you feel

Sometimes the best way to keep it safe and sound when you’re having romantic feelings with your best friend’s girlfriend is to tell your best friend how you feel. Deciding whether to do so will depend on a few important factors: how close your relationship with your best friend is, and whether keeping your distance from your friend is not an option. This decision is not to be taken lightly, as it could backfire on you and your friends if your best friend is offended or negatively influenced by your confession. Also, he might still lose faith in you because he thinks there might be a chance in the future that you might act on your feelings for his girlfriend. So it’s more likely to be somewhere in the back of his mind.

On the other hand, if your relationship with your best friend is solid, it could strengthen your bond because of your honesty and choice to be completely open and transparent. how close are you How long have you been best friends? How close are your best friend and his girlfriend? Could your friendship be negatively affected by your admission? There’s everything to consider before you decide whether to tell your best friend how you feel about his or her girlfriend.

Tell someone else about your feelings

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If the prospect of telling your best friend is out of the question, then the second best thing you can do is tell someone else. Tell another friend how you feel (as long as you’re sure they won’t tell your best friend). Tell a family member or a pastor, priest, rabbi or other spiritual person. Telling someone unrelated to this triangle can be very helpful in giving you objective insight and advice. You will often find that the people you contact have been through similar situations and can give you valuable advice based on their own experiences. Remember that rather than holding back your emotions, getting help is always the best way to go.

Be honest to yourself

Sometimes the answer to how to act or react in a situation like this is soul searching and being honest with yourself about why you are having the feelings and desires. This is especially relevant when you see it repeating itself over time or with multiple different relationships. If this is the case, there may be underlying issues causing your feelings and desires.

Seek professional help

If there’s a chance that underlying issues are triggering the feelings you’re experiencing, simply refrain from acting out those feelings or keeping your distance from your best friend and girlfriend, which may just put a band-aid on the problem. It could very well reappear in other relationships, including your marriage, in the future. Finding a mental health professional can be extremely helpful in identifying the triggers and deep-rooted issues, and helping you heal and position yourself for healthy and positive relationships in your future.

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Clearly, the foundation of any long-term relationship is friendship, and that’s why knowing how to be friends with your boyfriend is important. Not only will this help your relationship thrive, but it will also take it to another level, make it more meaningful and deepen the longstanding bond between you and your significant other.

A great friendship helps you better understand the relationship and look forward to spending time together beyond sex and necessities. It’s often what lays the foundation for a strong bond and lifelong happiness. It helps you open up and be more sensitive to your partner’s needs and feelings.

Simple tips to become your boyfriend’s best friend

It’s obvious that learning how to be friends with your boyfriend is about learning how to be friends, investing more time in each other, spending more time together, and creating a base or platform to move your relationship forward. Here are some simple but effective ways you can deepen your friendship with your special someone.

1. Do fun things together

As I mentioned in the introduction, the range of activities you do together must go beyond sex and not just be limited to housework. Find fun activities together, like camping, hiking, trekking, whitewater rafting, even cooking or reading books.

The benefit of these activities is that they strengthen your camaraderie and also create a meaningful database of activities to look forward to in a sustainable way. Over time, you learn to appreciate each other’s strengths and protect yourself from your weaknesses as well. This, in turn, greatly deepens the bond between the two of you in a meaningful and constructive way.

2. Spend a cozy time together

It’s not just about spending time together, it’s also about being comfortable with each other. If you are not comfortable, you cannot open yourself. The trick is to work on your mutual understanding and personal space.

It is important to ensure that the two of you do not invade each other’s space. In this way, one can often feel comfortable in the presence of the other for a long time without getting tired. It helps you open up to get to know each other better and make the relationship more transparent.

3. Never tired of talking

I can tell you from experience that my boyfriend is my best friend because I never get tired of talking to him. We can talk for hours and always have more to share. I feel like the more you share, the more you care. Talk to him about anything and see him start doing the same to you too. That way, you can start appreciating each other’s cerebral quotient and lay the foundation for a great relationship.

4. Share everything

That brings me to the next point. The moment you start talking about anything, it’s magical how you learn to share everything too. Sharing is something that always seals the bond of friendship like nothing else. It gives it a kind of finality and gives continuity to the feelings. This is what actually rounds off the friendship between partners in a relationship or even marriage. It creates the need and reason to share everything evenly, starting from love and ending with time.

5. Always show empathy and sympathy

This also makes it possible for you not only to sympathize but to empathize with your friend. When things get tough, it’s that timely expression of empathy or sympathy that gets the job done and helps your partner understand the value of the bond they share with you. They learn to appreciate your feelings and often return them.

6. Be loyal

Friendship and loyalty go hand in hand. So when you are looking for ways to make your friend your best friend, a certain level of loyalty is very important. It is what gives the relationship a strong foundation and is the most important trust factor that gives the relationship a sense of dependability.

You will agree that dependability and friendship go hand in hand and that one cannot exist without the other. So be faithful to your friend and make sure you value their love and friendship equally.

7. Don’t compare

If you want your boyfriend to be your best friend, stop comparing him to your boyfriend’s friends or anyone else’s. In order for your friendship to deepen and strengthen, it is important that you accept him for who he is without complaining too much.

You have to be comfortable in your own skin and feel safe with him. Otherwise, there is a real risk that your insecurities will turn into jealousy, and this often spoils a relationship more than anything else. So be sensitive to each other’s weaknesses and support your partner as much as you can. This is the cornerstone of a long-term friendship.

8. Stand by her side

If your boyfriend is your best friend, one golden rule must be to never leave your boyfriend’s side. Even if the world is against him, you shouldn’t doubt him.

Your mutual loyalty and transparency in the relationship requires absolute trust, and when your boyfriend sees that depth of feeling, emotion, and trust, it goes without saying that he’ll retaliate and have your back no matter what. It is often this unspoken rule of friendship that seals the long-term birth between partners in a relationship. It slowly turns mutual attraction into a need and desire for each other’s company, and so relationships often grow deeper and stronger over time.

Friendship is the most important step to your romantic relationship

Therefore, it is quite clear that the secret to being friends with your boyfriend is to be honest, sensitive, and invest a lot of time and attention in the relationship. The fact is, while the mutual attraction between two people wanes over time, the strong bond of a lifelong friendship endures.

There are many reasons your partner’s friends might not be easy to get along with. Often the friends of the person you are dating have known them longer than you have. That means you exist outside of a shared history of intimacy that exists separately from you. It is possible to feel a sense of rivalry with your partner’s friends. They came before you in your partner’s life and might stay after. Platonic intimacy is often more stable than the romantic kind and can therefore last much longer than a relationship, but that doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t valuable. Rather, you just need to know your place as one of many important relationships your partner has.

The people your partner associates with also tell you a lot about the person you are dating. If you don’t get along with your partner’s friends because they are, for example, racist, misogynist, homophobic jerks, then your problem is not with your partner’s friends, but with your actual partner. No one is better or worse than the people they hang out with, so if your significant other’s friends are a bunch of dill weed, chances are they are too.

Of course, getting along with people isn’t the same as being best friends. That’s why it’s important to have a healthy relationship with your partner’s friends, even if you’re not bosom buddies: because friends are family.

The nuclear family just doesn’t work these days. More and more people are realizing that being part of a diverse ecosystem of people with different skills, talents and sensibilities is much more sustainable and healing than the orthodox family structures in which we grew up. This is especially true for queer people who might be ostracized by their families.

I don’t put my parents or siblings down by filling out an emergency contact form. I wrote my best friend’s name down because I know she’s the one who might actually find me if something happens. My family members just don’t know me that well and they live far away. For many people, these are friends: support systems that we turn to.

According to psychotherapist Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, founder of www.lovevictory.com and author of Smart Relationships, this means your partner could be friends with many different people for different reasons. “These friends could be from childhood, work, or school, for example. They could also be relatives or people who are workout buddies,” she says. “You don’t have to love and hang out with all these people.”

But the important relationships are definitely really vital in your partner’s life and they need to be nurtured even if their best friends are not like the best friends you have for yourself. That’s because everyone considers their best friend to be the wisest leader in the world, even if they have absolutely no idea what they’re talking about.

When my best friend doesn’t like someone close to me, I listen to her. We’ve been friends long enough for me to trust that she always has my best interests at heart. That doesn’t mean I’ll do everything she tells me – quite the opposite. But if she ever expressed that she didn’t like my partner, I would reevaluate the relationship. She’s not always 100 percent right, but she’s always been right about my ex.

Assuming your partner’s friends are good people, they unselfishly want the best for your partner. These are the relationships you should support, says Dr. Wish, even if you wouldn’t make them your closest friends. dr Wish also recommends being friendly and respectful. When they don’t behave this way towards you, she says, “To preserve your sanity, don’t volunteer to hang out with them unless your partner says the event is important.” But really, you should try to tolerate your partner’s friends unless they are genuinely toxic people.

And if your partner’s friends aren’t good people — if they’re judgmental, sneaky, or toxic — then you really don’t need to be around them. dr Wish advises, “Let your partner know — and that you don’t want to be with that person.”

But I really hope that it doesn’t come to that. When you enjoy being with your partner and their friends, and they enjoy being with you, then your relationship becomes part of a thriving, loving ecosystem of important partnerships. Everyone deserves that.

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Your boyfriend cheating on you is a terrible thought. But your boyfriend is cheating on you with your best friend? This is the ultimate betrayal on so many unimaginable levels that you can’t even begin to explain. I’m going to walk you through some of the top signs that indicate he might be cheating on you with your best friend.

Top 6 Signs He’s Cheating With Your Best Friend

He’s called her pretty before

Has he ever said anything about whether she’s pretty or not? If he describes her as attractive in any way, that’s obviously an indication that he might be attracted to her, at least physically.

is she single

That alone isn’t enough to signal that he’s cheating on you with your best friend… but consider whether or not she’s single. If she’s single, that obviously means there’s an opportunity for cheating. Even if she’s not single, it’s still possible that some kind of cheating is taking place. If she’s in a relationship, think about whether she’s happy in it or whether she complains a lot.

She told you something complimenting about him

Has she ever said anything to you that suggests or overtly says that your boyfriend is attractive? Maybe something like “omg you’re so lucky”. This is an indication that he might be cheating. Again, that alone doesn’t mean anything, but by looking at the other signs (especially his own behavior) you can start putting the pieces together and making a judgment as to whether he’s likely to be cheating.

He asks about her a lot

Does your boyfriend often ask about your best friend? How… Way too much? This is obviously a sign that his interest goes beyond mere curiosity. Consider if he ever brings them up without you even saying anything. This is a sign that he may be cheating. I’ve actually written a lot about it, you can find more stunning freebies he cheats right here on Vixen Daily.

He acts weird when he’s around you

Does he just act weird when he’s with the two of you? Do you get a weird vibe when you hang out that you didn’t have before? This is a sign that he may be cheating.

Your best friend is the “type” of the person who would cheat

You obviously know your best friend (or at least think you do). Does she seem like the kind of person who would cheat, or does it seem like it’s literally impossible?

The top 7 signs he might be cheating with someone

He hides his phone from you

Has he been unusually secretive about his phone lately? Maybe he used to leave his phone lying around, but now all of a sudden… he’s very private and weird about his phone. Maybe he didn’t have a passcode before and now he does. Maybe his passcode was set to turn on after 15 minutes, but now it’s activated instantly. Maybe he gets super nervous if you use his phone for some innocent reason.

He seems nervous around you

Does he seem nervous, uncomfortable, and acting weird around you? Or does he do almost anything to be uncommonly nice? This is a sign that he may be cheating.

He’s behaving differently than usual for no apparent reason

Is he suddenly acting completely different than usual? Is his behavior somehow “off”? This is a sign that he may be cheating.

He no longer has sex with you

This is obviously a big indicator that he is cheating on you. Check out this article for more signs. Unless something else is going on in his life that is causing him to lose interest in sex, this is a big sign that he may be cheating. There are obviously other reasons that suggest he might stop having sex with you, but this is definitely a sign to consider.

He makes more effort to “groom” himself

It’s normal for a man to groom himself and do things like wear cologne, get his hair cut, and other good things. Different men have different grooming habits. So think about his typical grooming habits and compare that to his current situation. Is he suddenly putting a lot more effort into his looks and grooming habits? If so, that could be a sign that he’s trying to impress someone else.

Your gut tells you it’s him

This is an important one. Listen to your gut feeling. Do you just have a gut feeling that he’s cheating on you (try this article to learn more about it), but you don’t know why? Sometimes you have to listen to your gut feeling. Really think about what your gut is telling you.

He is secretive about money

Is he suddenly spending a lot of money? He could spend it on dates or drinks or whatever else he could do with another woman. So if he suddenly keeps his finances a secret and makes an effort to hide things from you, that is a sign that he is cheating.

Do you hate your boyfriend’s friends? Do you find it completely unbearable – or at least very annoying – to hang out with them?

Are you worried about the impact these feelings will have on your relationship?

Perhaps you worry that these friends will be a bad influence on your man if they aren’t already?

It’s a difficult situation, so I really wanted to help. This guide provides eight ideas for things to do when you hate your boyfriend’s friends.

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After this explanation, let’s explore what you can do when you find that you don’t like your boyfriend’s friends.

I hate my boyfriend’s friends – 8 tips to deal with it

1. Be honest and tell him the truth

If he asks you what you think about his friends, be honest with him, it’s best to tell the truth. But don’t say you don’t like his friends because there might be a problem between the two of you. Imagine if your partner tells you that he doesn’t like one of your friends, you wouldn’t like that either.

I’m not saying you should pretend to enjoy her company. It probably has something to do with the fact that you’re not comfortable with his friends. So discuss it with him in a non-confrontational approach, who knows? He may see it that way, and it could lead to a positive change.

2. Don’t tell him to choose between you and his friends

Don’t be tempted to tell your boyfriend to choose either your relationship with him or his friends, that’s a wrong move. No matter how you feel about your husband’s friends, you don’t have the right to tell him to choose between you and his friends. No one has the right to choose that for anyone, so that’s a major transgression.

dr Paulette Sherman, PsyD, psychologist and relationship coach, further explained here that

It’s important for you to know that your friend was friends with these people before you came on board. As such, it is each friend’s choice who they wish to be friends with.

3. Don’t spend time with them, do it when it’s important

To be honest, the best thing you can do if you want to stop hating her is avoid her. Sure, your boyfriend might feel like his girlfriend and boys don’t get along, but ultimately, isn’t that better than a showdown? All you have to do is know your place in your friend’s life and know that your relationship with them is completely different than the relationship they share with their friends.

4. You should try to know them

Make an effort to know his friends and spend time with them because they won’t walk away just because you don’t like them. The first impression is not always the right one; don’t let it stick any longer. Sure, you might have seen his boyfriend at a party, all over the place for a girl who isn’t his girlfriend. So don’t write it off completely. I know cheating sucks, but everyone has at least one redeeming quality. Get to know them and spend time with them. You will be surprised that they are not complete idiots after all.

5. Ask for his support

Asking him to share a good thing about his friends can go a long way, who knows? It can even help you change your mind about these people. If there is one of his friends that you don’t like or feel comfortable with, address them in a civilized manner. He is the only person who can help you bridge the gap.

6. Be honest, are you jealous?

I know it’s very difficult to imagine. We know you’re firmly behind the I hate my boyfriend’s friends banner, but are you sure you’re not just jealous of his friends? Sure, your man obviously doesn’t have a romantic relationship with his buddies, but they probably take their time. I know it’s especially stinging when you’re new to his friend group, and they probably have a hazy and unwelcome attitude that could have been all shades of uncomfortable. It’s pretty easy to see why you hate them in this case. Still, you have to be tactful and recognize if this has something to do with you, not them.

7. You need to control your emotions

I’ll start by saying you must learn to control your emotions. They shouldn’t be the reason you’re stressing yourself out every other day. Not only is that a lot of energy, but you’re actually ruining your day, not them. I know this sounds a bit confusing, but you are actually choosing to be upset. After all, they won’t be there all day since you don’t live them. There’s no point in getting angry at your friends. All in all, try not to be rude to his buddies because it will add more tension to your relationship.

8. Don’t try to pocket it

It’s one thing for you not to like his buddies, but don’t stop him from dating them. This is the worst thing you can do for yourself and your relationship. Also try to see things from a better side, he has some really good friends and he enjoys his time with them. Trying to stop him from being with his boys will only push him out of your life. Don’t let your hatred of these guys cause you to lose your Romeo.

frequently asked Questions

What do I do if I hate my boyfriend’s friends? First, find all the things they do to offend you and discuss them with your husband. But make sure you talk about the behaviors that are affecting you. Don’t make it sound like you’re making accusations against his boys. How do I stop being jealous of my boyfriend’s friends? You need to pinpoint the source of jealousy, after which you will be able to tackle the problem from the root. It could be that he gives his boys more time and thought than you. Also, try to have a good friend, it will really put everything into perspective. Why do I hate it when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends? The problem here is clearly yours. Also, you need to start spending time with yourself, or better yet, with your girls. You know he’s not cheating, only you think you’re losing him. Don’t be too clingy, hang out with other people to distract yourself from such thoughts. What do you do when you don’t like your husband’s friends? You should avoid this person unless they have done something wrong and offensive, they are toxic, or they are insecure. Then you should bring it up with your spouse, but chances are he will defend his friend, that’s because he certainly sees the good in his friend that you don’t. Frustrated that he’s not paying you as much attention as he used to?

This is one of the most common problems faced by our female readers.

The #1 factor that makes men behave this way is actually relatively easy to change with a few subtle things you can tell him today. Check out this free video (click the link to watch) my friend recorded that explains how you can become his priority! How do I behave around my boyfriend’s friends? Try to show up for group outings. If you’re nervous about going out with them, you can organize the meeting yourself. Choose a place where you feel comfortable or use your home. Also, on first impression they probably won’t meet all of your criteria, just take them for what they are. However, don’t worry too much about first impressions.

Last…

Don’t be so hard on yourself, we all have that feeling at times, especially when the friend in question is being obnoxious and rude. With the help of the tips I have shared, you will get through this. I will love to read your comments and also share this with your friends and family.